Umm, earthdad ? Victorian houses did have kitchens inside, and many had indoor plumbing by the 1880's, depending on the town or city where it was located.
You can do a sympathetic restoration - that house of yours has a lot still left to work with. If you're going to gut it, and do a bunch of trendy updates to appeal to some generic buyer - well - you'll be getting some frowns here. I don't know if you've noticed, but everyone here bought an old house - many of which looked old, with old features. Many of us bought our homes for this very reason.
I doubt the "woman of the house" would enjoy a goofy exposed steel support, even if she was the president of the steel mill. This is not an industrial loft, this is a modest family home you're working with. Please do right by it and do not destroy the good in it has survived for almost 140 years. You should hire structural engineer NOW before you go any further, since it appears that the integrity has already been compromised with that hacked up beam.
Also - refrain from mentioning women's anatomy as some kind of insult.
p.s. Here's some toiler paper history for ya:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toilet_paper